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Family problems are one of the main reasons that have a direct impact on the psychology of children or a significant impact also on the child's mind, so it is possible to define family problems with problems that the family may face Each family is exposed to many simple or complex problems, 

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which poses a challenge to it to face and solve these problems, when any family is exposed to a problem,

all its members will be affected by it, especially those who live in the same house, its impact may be on the psychological state of individuals or cause Some physical problems, 

and this affects their ability to carry out their daily duties, which requires them to cooperate to solve this problem, and this strengthens family ties.

Among the most important causes of family problems:

• Plurality of opinions, values, and goals of family members.

• Changes in the family, such as divorce or remarriage.

• Poverty or financial problems.

• Health problems, whether psychological or physical.

• Ethical problems such as harassment, drug use, gambling, and drinking alcohol.

• Problems related to the lack of trust and respect between family members.

• The inferiority of one parent to the other (one individual looks at the other in a belittled way)

• Grief over the loss of someone.

• Academic and educational problems of children.

• Adolescence problems.

How to face problems Find out the evidence that indicates a problem, namely:

• Frequent disputes and disputes.

• Lack of interaction between individuals and lack of mixing.

• Nervousness in coping.

• Isolation.

• Moody.

• Depression.

• Behavioral changes in children.

Ways to face these problems:

1. Discuss the problem with family members calmly and honestly.
2. Accept other opinions, believe in the ideas and beliefs of others, and avoid any unnecessary disagreements.
3. Find time to have fun and calm the nerves even with the problem present.
4. Develop a plan to solve the problem and commit to its implementation.
5. Seek help from trusted people when you can't solve the problem.

Family disintegration:

• Family disintegration is defined as the occurrence of a defect in family cohesion and the stability and compatibility of the family, this imbalance may occur, whether between spouses or between children,

• and it can also be defined by relying on the Dictionary of Social Science terms as follows:

• It is the existence of many reasons such as misunderstanding, which pushes one of the spouses to abandon the family and abandon it, and thus abandon his family duties towards it.

The problems of family disintegration are fully reflected in children, and the most important effects of it are the following:

1. Child delinquency and displacement.
2. Academic problems are represented by their low academic grades, in addition to their low morals and delinquency.
3. Influencing children's ability to interact with their communities and positively influence it, turning it into a fragmented society.
4. Causing health problems for children such as psychological problems, mental retardation, and neurological diseases.
5. Feeling inferior, frustrated, disrespectful to others, and generating hatred and hatred towards them, especially towards happy families.
6. The psychological disintegration of the individual leads to problems of addiction, alcohol and drug abuse, and the trend toward criminal behavior.

The impact of family problems on children:

When do family problems become negatively retroactive to children?

• Some may think that a happy family is a family that does not suffer from problems at all, but this is impossible, as some disputes must occur from time to time, and as was previously praised some of these disagreements may be accompanied by positive effects.

• When parents try to solve problems with each other in a calm way, this makes it clear to children that no matter how difficult the problems are, they can be solved, and that the proper ways to solve them have no negative impact on the psychological state of children, quite the contrary.

•  But some destructive methods may accompany family problems, making them dangerous and having a great psychological and physical impact on children,

including the following:

• Verbal abuse such as the use of offensive nicknames and insults, and threats of abandonment, which may sometimes be represented by divorce. Physical assault such as hitting, pushing, and even throwing objects.

• Use silent methods such as evasion and withdrawal, or frowning without saying a word or ignoring altogether.

• Give up and make it seem like a solution has been reached.

Effects on children due to family problems:

• Children of all ages, from 6 months to 19 years old, have a clear sensitivity to the conflicts that occur between parents and the methods they use to resolve those disputes, and this leads to an impact on different aspects of their lives and this is evident in several things.

Loss of emotional insecurity:

• There is a relationship between a child's sense of emotional security and the safety and security of the family system within the family, as the devastating problems that occur can make the child see how weak the emotional bonds essential to their survival are.

• This, in turn, may push him to try to end the problems or withdraw completely, which affects his mental health, as these methods, even if they are successful in overcoming difficult family life, remain with him in various aspects, affecting his way of dealing with them.

Negatively affect the relationship between parents and child:

• Family problems have an impact on parents as well, as anxious circumstances make them withdrawn and unable to spend enough time with their children, 

• and this makes the quality of the relationship between them weak due to the inability of parents to show warm and reassuring feelings to their children.

Negative impact on health:

• In a 20-year study, in which samples of the anxiety hormone cortisol taken from children in the Caribbean were analyzed, it was found that children who had intercourse with constantly quarreling parents had higher levels of cortisol than children living in quiet home environments.

•  As a result, these children felt more tired and sick, preventing them from playing and sleeping well.

• In recent studies, it was found that cortisol levels for some children remain below normal, and this difference in hormone level patterns illustrates the differences in the behaviors that the child used to cope with problems that occur in his home.

• In addition to the impact of problems on some physiological systems such as the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems, which help us respond to perceived threats, 

• there is a clear relationship between growing up in an anxious environment and the health problems they will face in their adult life that may even affect their immunity.

Negative impact on mental health:

Children react to family problems that affect their psychological and mental health and appear as follows:

• External and behavioral traits such as aggressive behavior, attack, non-compliance with orders, as well as sabotage.

• Internal features as a result of internally addressing negative emotions such as depression, anxiety, withdrawal, and a general state of dissatisfaction.

Negatively affect their future relationships:

• Family problems that occur in childhood are incurred by children even in adulthood and when they leave the house, the quality of the relationship that was between the parents maintains control over their mental health and the way they deal with their husbands in the future, 

• so you see them following the steps of their parents in dealing, which leads to double harm to their mental health.

• Their constant exposure to family problems increases the likelihood that they will treat others violently, making it difficult for them to maintain healthy relationships and even be able to trust people in general.

Negatively affect their scientific performance:

• Anxiety caused by family problems affects children's ability to concentrate, making learning harder and creating academic problems at school or university.

• Most children raised in problematic environments have trouble succeeding academically as well as difficulty developing relationships with their peers.

 

After all. In general, the responsibility for protecting the family from disintegration lies with the parents, as they are responsible for maintaining their children and raising them properly;

this is by maintaining the safety of their family from problems by carrying out their functions and duties towards themselves and their children, and if it requires separation,

it is under the restrictions of respect for mutual treatment between parents so that the children do not feel this separation until they understand the motives for separation.

Wish All a Happy family and a Bright Future